WASHINGTON (BP) -- The pornography industry has had another STD scare in
its ranks. No one should be surprised. Its mistreatment of the human
body and complete disregard for human dignity is bound to lead to the
destruction of those who engage in it.
But pornography destroys
not only those who engage in making it. It also destroys those who view
it. While men and women are attracted to pornography for different
reasons, the impact is devastating. Pornography introduces women to a
fantasy world of false relationships that substitute for the real thing.
It enables men to imagine sexual relationships without responsibility.
For both, the result is isolation from members of the opposite sex and
the loss of relationships that give meaning to life.
Pornography
also devastates marriages. The loss of genuine intimacy is one of the
leading causes of marital problems, including divorce. Women who
discover their husbands are viewing pornography feel a deep sense of
betrayal and insecurity. Their feelings of betrayal arise from the
knowledge that their husbands are actually fantasizing about other women
while they are engaged in acts of intimacy with them. They are insecure
because they believe they are no longer personally appealing enough to
their husbands.
Men who discover their wives are viewing
pornography feel a deep sense of betrayal and isolation. They believe
their wives are engaged in the equivalent of affairs with other men.
This can lead to a sense of insecurity as they believe that they have
failed to keep their wives' interest. It also results in greater
isolation in the marriage as the wife looks to others for emotional
engagement and interaction.
Some advocate viewing pornography as a
way to enhance the physical experience between couples. This is
outrageous. Couples aroused by viewing pornography end up using each
other as a means of self-gratification. God intended the sexual
relationship to be an act of selfless giving, where the partners are
focused on satisfying the needs of each other. In God's design for sex,
personal satisfaction results but it occurs within the context of mutual
giving. Pornography reverses this and makes the desires of each person
the central focus and the satisfaction of the partner a byproduct.
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